About Dr. Randi

Live a life so erotic even the angels blush

I’m Randi — an author, researcher, provocateur, and mystic with an insatiable curiosity about love, desire, and what makes human beings come magnificently alive. My writing is for those who refuse to settle for anything less than love that rocks their world and delights their soul — where the sacred and the obscene dance together and life is meant to be lived wide-open.

Love that is brave, brilliant and sacred

I believe in love that’s brave, brilliant, and sacred — the kind that requires you to keep your heart open even when it’s trembling. My work explores what it means to surrender to that love, whether it’s in your relationships, your spirit, or your own damn self.

Guiding men to love that’s fierce and tender

I don’t just understand men — I get you. The fire in your belly, the hunger in your heart, and the primal ache that won’t quit until you find a love as deep as your desire. My work explores the raw, real, and often unspoken parts of men’s hearts, spirits, and erotic lives. Because here’s the truth: Your desires aren’t dirty, your longings aren’t wrong, and your need to be seen, cherished, and felt isn’t too much to ask for. It’s sacred. It’s human. Whether you’re wrestling with the weight of your past, longing for a love that sets your soul on fire, or wondering whether you’ll ever find a woman who can embrace all of you—your strength, your tenderness, and the wild, untamed parts you’ve been taught to hide — I believe all of you deserves to be brought into the light.

Women and the art of sacred devotion

My work explores how women can awaken to their feminine power by embracing the lost art of reverence. The world may dismiss adoring a man as outdated or weak—but there is extraordinary strength in loving a good man deeply, openly, and without apology. This isn’t about surrendering your strength or making yourself smaller. It’s about discovering what can happen when desire, devotion, tenderness, and reverence become part of the way you love. That means confronting the wounds and conditioning that can make that kind of openness frightening, and becoming freer to love and be loved with your whole heart. Forget the rules of modern dating. I’m much more interested in exploring what it means to truly see a man, honor his essence, delight in him, and create the kind of connection in which both of you can flourish.

My brand of humor

I’ve written seven books, two of which were dirty jokes books — because one dirty joke book is never enough. Believe it or not, these books were on the New York Times best-seller list. Spend enough time around me and you are bound to hear some of this material. In the movie “Steel Magnolias,” Dolly Parton said, “Laughter through tears is my favorite emotion.” I love it when I make people belly laugh so hard they cry (and maybe pee a little). Welcome to my world! Where the sacred and the obscene do the dance of love. Think tuxedo jacket with surf shorts.

Education, experience and my current status

This is where you may get very, very sleepy.

I hold doctorates in psychology and naturopathy, and a BA in Communication with a concentration in journalism. I’ve worked as an author for over 30 years. Just to keep things interesting, I have certifications in EMDR, NLP, hypnotherapy, nutrition and herbalism.

My life has taken a few unexpected turns along the way. I spent more than 20 years as a psychotherapist, but that’s only one piece of the story. I’ve also worked as a journalist, general contractor, and an award-winning designer and artist. Apparently, choosing one lane has never been one of my strengths.

My early research in communication theory, published in 1993, explored the effects of family dysfunction on intimacy and connection in adult relationships. I’ve also published research on the effects of extended water fasting on depression.

I’m currently polishing my seventh book Magnificent Men: How Men Are Undervalued and How Worshipping and Being Worshipped Can Bring You The Hot and Holy Love You Desire, exploring the restoration of men’s dignity and worth, the sacred and sensual dimensions of intimacy, and hot and holy love.

What matters to me

Away from the writing, I’m happiest with my dog nearby, playing music, something making me laugh, and an idea that has gotten slightly out of hand. I love long walks, unexpected adventures, beautiful little rituals, and those moments when ordinary life suddenly feels touched by the divine.

I pray and laugh loudly. I’m deeply sentimental and profoundly irreverent, sometimes within the same five minutes. I have a weakness for magnificent gestures, ridiculous ideas, belly laughter, and small acts of kindness that nobody else sees.

I believe ordinary life should contain considerably more wonder than we usually allow it. The sacred, the sensual, the tender, the hilarious, and the completely absurd all belong at the same table. Preferably with a dog underneath it.

I’ve found that human beings are far more magnificent than we’ve been taught to believe. I’m fascinated by what happens when we stop diminishing ourselves and one another and begin treating the people we love as precious.

I care about men being valued, women being adored, desire being welcomed rather than feared, and love being both wildly alive and deeply safe. I value relationships in which two people can laugh so hard they end up on the floor, love so hard that the neighbors file noise complaints, and worship each other shamelessly.

Prepare to be delighted.

Song Recommendation:
— “Crash Into Me” Dave Matthews Band, 1996