by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality
Choose to say, “I choose you to walk besides you because you are my sacred love.” Let’s talk about the one element of lasting love that nobody wants to admit is entirely voluntary. You can’t manufacture chemistry. You either burn when you touch someone or you don’t....
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Joy, Love, Passion, Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality
The first pillar of the Erotic Four — and why nothing else compares. We’ve been lied to. Not subtly, not occasionally — relentlessly and thoroughly lied to about what great sex actually is. The culture has sold us a story that the hottest sex is the newest sex. That...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Eroticism, Happiness, Men, Passion, Relationships, Sexuality, Women
How to use temperature play to ignite your sex life. There’s a moment, just as the cold of an ice cube presses against his skin, when his entire body tenses—not because it hurts, but because it shocks his system in a way that wakes every nerve ending up at once,...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 14, 2026 | Eroticism, Men, Relationships, Sacred, Women
Because the divine masculine deserves a standing ovation – schwing! In the grand tapestry of human existence, there are few subjects as simultaneously revered and ridiculed, celebrated and shamed, as the male penis. It is the original wand of creation, the divine...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 14, 2026 | Communication, Eroticism, Love, Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality, Spirituality
Creating a shift from surviving to thriving, marked as happy, joyous, and free. In 1993, I sat in a quiet room at Santa Clara University, staring at the results of my study on communication apprehension among adult children of alcoholics. The data was clear: people...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 13, 2026 | Men, Relationships, Sacred, Spirituality, Women
By shining your light on others, you give them permission to rise to the occasion. This chapter is not about confidence, though confidence may follow from it. It is not about success, though success often accompanies it. It is not about self-esteem in the therapeutic...
