by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Apr 1, 2026 | Eroticism, Joy, Sacred, Sexuality, Spirituality
How I emerged from fire with cosmic cojones. Let’s be real: most testicles—as beautiful as they are—are just along for the ride. In terms of participation, they’re like that passive-aggressive roommate who never does the dishes but somehow always gets credit for just...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Apr 1, 2026 | Sacred, Spirituality
Go raise a little hell…and a whole lot of love. A Word from the Instructor Welcome, recruit. You’ve made it this far, which means one of two things: Either you’re a glutton for punishment, or you’ve finally realized that it’s time to step forward and claim...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 30, 2026 | Passion, Psychotherapy, Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality, Spirituality
A beautiful life chock full of great love, ecstasy, kindness and humor. It’s not just for some, it’s for everyone. There are four words I say randomly to strangers everyday. I put them on my business cards. I close my emails with them. I mean them every single...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 24, 2026 | Communication, Happiness, Sacred, Spirituality
Aggressive grace is spiritual warfare and the weapons are mercy, light and love. In a world that often feels increasingly fragmented, guarded, and transactional, the traditional concept of “grace” can sometimes feel inadequate—or at least, too quiet for...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 20, 2026 | Love, Passion, Sacred, Spirituality
How to create your own kingdom, not give two fucks, and stop treating everybody else’s opinions like they’re thunderbolts from Mount Sinai. Somewhere out there, a star is dying so spectacularly that it briefly outshines its entire galaxy. It doesn’t...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 14, 2026 | Communication, Eroticism, Love, Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality, Spirituality
Creating a shift from surviving to thriving, marked as happy, joyous, and free. In 1993, I sat in a quiet room at Santa Clara University, staring at the results of my study on communication apprehension among adult children of alcoholics. The data was clear: people...
