by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Apr 1, 2026 | Joy, Men, Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality, Spirituality
How I emerged from fire with cosmic cojones. Let’s be real: most testicles—as beautiful as they are—are just along for the ride. In terms of participation, they’re like that passive-aggressive roommate who never does the dishes but somehow always gets credit for just...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 30, 2026 | Passion, Psychotherapy, Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality, Spirituality
A beautiful life chock full of great love, ecstasy, kindness and humor. It’s not just for some, it’s for everyone. There are four words I say randomly to strangers everyday. I put them on my business cards. I close my emails with them. I mean them every single...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 24, 2026 | Communication, Happiness, Sacred, Spirituality
Aggressive grace is spiritual warfare and the weapons are mercy and light. In a world that often feels increasingly fragmented, guarded, and transactional, the traditional concept of “grace” can sometimes feel inadequate—or at least, too quiet for the...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 20, 2026 | Love, Passion, Sacred, Spirituality
How to create your own kingdom, not give two fucks, and stop treating everybody else’s opinions like they’re thunderbolts from Mount Sinai. Somewhere out there, a star is dying so spectacularly that it briefly outshines its entire galaxy. It doesn’t...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 19, 2026 | Joy, Love, Relationships, Sacred, Spirituality
When I was 16, I spent a fall weekend on a Church retreat on the South Side of Chicago with about 30 other teenagers. We stayed at Hyde Park Union Church with pastors from our local Church. Late Friday night, several of us went out and walked around the Church’s...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Love, Sacred, Spirituality
Finding and honoring the aspects of each other’s universe that have deep meaning. Let me tell you what kills most long-term relationships. It’s not the affairs, though those are devastating. It’s not the financial disasters, though those will test you. It’s not even...
