by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 27, 2026 | Love, Men, Relationships, Women
Why the pursuit of love has never been more sophisticated — or more prone to failure. We have never had more information about relationships. More books, more podcasts, more therapeutic frameworks, more attachment theory explainers, more dating apps algorithmically...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 26, 2026 | Dignity, Love, Men, Sacred, Velvety Steel Balls, Women, Worship
Because some kinds of love are too big for smaller words. The Flinch It happens at dinner parties. It happens at the dentist. It happened once in the checkout line at Costco, which is not where I expected to discuss the theology of desire, but there we were, between...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 24, 2026 | Dignity, Humor, Men, Sacred, Women, Worship
We rehabilitate men who have been chronically under-cherished. Welcome to the Sanctuary. We are a nonprofit organization, in the sense that nobody here is making any money, dedicated to the recovery and rehabilitation of men who have been chronically under-cherished....
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 23, 2026 | Eroticism, Love, Men, Passion, Sacred, Velvety Steel Balls, Women
The woman who fears your hunger is not the one you’re here for. You’ve been told your whole life that wanting her—really wanting her, with a fire that burns through your veins and a longing that aches in your bones—is something to be controlled, minimized, or even...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 23, 2026 | Dignity, Love, Men, Sacred, Women
Maybe men don’t need another list of everything they’re doing wrong. Maybe they need to be seen. What If Men Aren’t a Renovation Project? Walk through any fixer-upper with a realtor and you will hear a very particular kind of love. Good bones. Great potential. Of...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 21, 2026 | Love, Men, Women
Most people spend their lives looking at men. Very few people ever truly see them. Looking is easy. It requires nothing of us but eyes that work and a moment of attention. A man walks into a room and we look at him the way we look at weather, or traffic, or the line...