by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 19, 2026 | Emotions, Grief, Happiness, Joy, Love, Relationships, Sacred, Spirituality
When I was 16, I spent a fall weekend on a Church retreat on the South Side of Chicago with about 30 other teenagers. We stayed at Hyde Park Union Church with pastors from our local Church. Late Friday night, several of us went out and walked around the Church’s...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 18, 2026 | Communication, Couples Therapy, Happiness, Joy, Love, Passion, Relationships
The gentle revolution of a soft heart in a hard world. We live in a world that glorifies the hard charge. The hustle. The grind. The relentless pursuit of more—more success, more intensity, more fire. We’re taught to push through, to power up, to never let them see us...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 17, 2026 | Couples Therapy, Emotions, Happiness, Joy, Love, Marriage Counseling, Men, Premarital Counseling, Relationships, Sexuality
The explosive release after the discipline ends. Love is not about losing control. It is about choosing—every single day—to trust instead of grip, to listen instead of lecture, to hold instead of fix. It’s the art of knowing when to stand firm, and when to soften....
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Communication, Couples Therapy, Happiness, Joy, Love, Marriage Counseling, Men, Relationships, Sexuality, Women
Aligning the four pillars to strengthen the foundation of your relationship. Love isn’t something that simply happens to you. It’s something you build—brick by brick, choice by choice, with the kind of intentionality that separates the thriving from the surviving. But...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Joy, Love, Passion, Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality
The first pillar of the Erotic Four — and why nothing else compares. We’ve been lied to. Not subtly, not occasionally — relentlessly and thoroughly lied to about what great sex actually is. The culture has sold us a story that the hottest sex is the newest sex. That...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Communication, Eroticism, Joy, Love, Men, Passion, Sacred, Sexuality, Women
The look that ruins him for anyone else. There’s a moment, just as your lips first brush against him, when everything changes—not because of what you’re doing with your mouth, but because of what you’re doing with your eyes. Most women close theirs or look away when...
