by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Love, Sacred, Spirituality
Finding and honoring the aspects of each other’s universe that have deep meaning. Let me tell you what kills most long-term relationships. It’s not the affairs, though those are devastating. It’s not the financial disasters, though those will test you. It’s not even...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Men, Sacred, Spirituality, Women
You’re going to need tattoos, red glitter, a mobile DJ, street dancers, and an elephant. Did I mention twerking? Picture this. You are standing at the edge of a crowd that is — for reasons you don’t yet understand — losing its mind with joy. Drums are...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 14, 2026 | Communication, Eroticism, Love, Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality, Spirituality
Creating a shift from surviving to thriving, marked as happy, joyous, and free. In 1993, I sat in a quiet room at Santa Clara University, staring at the results of my study on communication apprehension among adult children of alcoholics. The data was clear: people...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 13, 2026 | Men, Relationships, Sacred, Spirituality, Women
By shining your light on others, you give them permission to rise to the occasion. This chapter is not about confidence, though confidence may follow from it. It is not about success, though success often accompanies it. It is not about self-esteem in the therapeutic...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 13, 2026 | Joy, Love, Sacred, Spirituality
What a magnificent web we weave when we practice to receive. I want to tell you about the moment I told a stranger to “Have a beautiful life.” That exchange was complete in a way that the original exchange had not quite been. The blessing offered and the blessing...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 11, 2026 | Men, Sacred, Spirituality, Women
Give another human being the gift of helping them to see their beauty. There is a man at customer service at my local Whole Foods. He has worked there long enough that I know him, and one afternoon I was standing at the counter watching him work and I noticed...
