by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Love, Sacred, Spirituality
Finding and honoring the aspects of each other’s universe that have deep meaning. Let me tell you what kills most long-term relationships. It’s not the affairs, though those are devastating. It’s not the financial disasters, though those will test you. It’s not even...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 14, 2026 | Communication, Eroticism, Love, Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality, Spirituality
Creating a shift from surviving to thriving, marked as happy, joyous, and free. In 1993, I sat in a quiet room at Santa Clara University, staring at the results of my study on communication apprehension among adult children of alcoholics. The data was clear: people...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 13, 2026 | Men, Relationships, Sacred, Spirituality, Women
By shining your light on others, you give them permission to rise to the occasion. This chapter is not about confidence, though confidence may follow from it. It is not about success, though success often accompanies it. It is not about self-esteem in the therapeutic...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 11, 2026 | Men, Sacred, Spirituality, Women
Give another human being the gift of helping them to see their beauty. There is a man at customer service at my local Whole Foods. He has worked there long enough that I know him, and one afternoon I was standing at the counter watching him work and I noticed...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 1, 2026 | Joy, Love, Sacred, Spirituality
The greatest tragedy is not that magnificence is rare but we often fail to notice it until it is gone. I want to tell you about an average Tuesday when I took my tri-weekly adventure to Whole Foods. I was dancing at the meat counter to the Madonna they were blasting...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Feb 18, 2026 | Joy, Love, Relationships, Sacred, Spirituality
The unexpected encounters with love and humanity that changed my life. When I was 16, I spent a fall weekend on a Church retreat on the South Side of Chicago with about 30 other teenagers. We stayed at Hyde Park Union Church with pastors from our local Church. We...
