by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Love, Sacred, Spirituality
Finding and honoring the aspects of each other’s universe that have deep meaning. Let me tell you what kills most long-term relationships. It’s not the affairs, though those are devastating. It’s not the financial disasters, though those will test you. It’s not even...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Joy, Love, Passion, Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality
The first pillar of the Erotic Four — and why nothing else compares. We’ve been lied to. Not subtly, not occasionally — relentlessly and thoroughly lied to about what great sex actually is. The culture has sold us a story that the hottest sex is the newest sex. That...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Eroticism, Love, Men, Sacred, Sexuality, Women
The look that ruins him for anyone else. There’s a moment, just as your lips first brush against him, when everything changes—not because of what you’re doing with your mouth, but because of what you’re doing with your eyes. Most women close theirs...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 14, 2026 | Communication, Eroticism, Love, Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality, Spirituality
Creating a shift from surviving to thriving, marked as happy, joyous, and free. In 1993, I sat in a quiet room at Santa Clara University, staring at the results of my study on communication apprehension among adult children of alcoholics. The data was clear: people...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 13, 2026 | Love, Men, Sexuality, Women
The difference between an ordinary life and an extraordinary one is rarely talent. It is almost always courage. There is a moment that recurs throughout human life — not once, but repeatedly, across the decades of a lived existence — in which a person stands at a...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 13, 2026 | Love, Men, Sexuality, Women
One of the great hidden tragedies of human life is not unrequited love. It is unexpressed love. The culture keeps a careful record of love expressed. The proposal on the mountaintop. The letter delivered at the last possible moment. The declaration made in the rain,...
