by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 20, 2026 | Love, Relationships
If you play your cards right that dry wall may never be done. The Great Relationship Myth We have been given a magnificent, maddening lie. It arrives gift-wrapped in fairy tales, sealed in the amber of romantic comedies, and sung to us by artists who have convinced us...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 19, 2026 | Joy, Love, Relationships, Sacred, Spirituality
When I was 16, I spent a fall weekend on a Church retreat on the South Side of Chicago with about 30 other teenagers. We stayed at Hyde Park Union Church with pastors from our local Church. Late Friday night, several of us went out and walked around the Church’s...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 18, 2026 | Joy, Love, Passion, Relationships
The gentle revolution of a soft heart in a hard world. We live in a world that glorifies the hard charge. The hustle. The grind. The relentless pursuit of more—more success, more intensity, more fire. We’re taught to push through, to power up, to never let them see us...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Eroticism, Love, Sacred
The problem with ordinary love is that it often trades breathtaking passion for monotonous routines. Let’s begin with a confession, a clinical observation, and a minor miracle, all rolled into one: the vast majority of people on this planet are secretly holding...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Love, Sacred, Spirituality
Finding and honoring the aspects of each other’s universe that have deep meaning. Let me tell you what kills most long-term relationships. It’s not the affairs, though those are devastating. It’s not the financial disasters, though those will test you. It’s not even...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Joy, Love, Passion, Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality
The first pillar of the Erotic Four — and why nothing else compares. We’ve been lied to. Not subtly, not occasionally — relentlessly and thoroughly lied to about what great sex actually is. The culture has sold us a story that the hottest sex is the newest sex. That...
