by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 25, 2026 | Humor, Joy, Love, Marriage, Passion, Sacred, Sexuality, Velvety Steel Balls
A life fully inhabited — Sacred, saucy, and completely without apology. When someone says that are living an erotic life they mean they are living a “balls to the wall” life. The words erotic and eros are deeply connected. Eros is the spiritual force of...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 23, 2026 | Eroticism, Love, Men, Passion, Sacred, Women
The woman who fears your hunger is not the one you’re here for. You’ve been told your whole life that wanting her—really wanting her, with a fire that burns through your veins and a longing that aches in your bones—is something to be controlled, minimized, or even...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 23, 2026 | Dignity, Love, Men, Sacred, Women
Maybe men don’t need another list of everything they’re doing wrong. Maybe they need to be seen. What If Men Aren’t a Renovation Project? Walk through any fixer-upper with a realtor and you will hear a very particular kind of love. Good bones. Great potential. Of...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 21, 2026 | Love, Men, Women
Most people spend their lives looking at men. Very few people ever truly see them. Looking is easy. It requires nothing of us but eyes that work and a moment of attention. A man walks into a room and we look at him the way we look at weather, or traffic, or the line...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 20, 2026 | Love, Passion, Sacred, Spirituality, Velvety Steel Balls
How to create your own kingdom, not give two fucks, and stop treating everybody else’s opinions like they’re thunderbolts from Mount Sinai. Somewhere out there, a star is dying so spectacularly that it briefly outshines its entire galaxy. It doesn’t...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 20, 2026 | Joy, Love, Men, Women
How the right words make him feel seen, desired, and cherished. She knows his hands almost as well as she knows her own. The small scar across one knuckle. The roughness at his fingertips. The way they can wrestle something mechanical back to life in the afternoon and...
