by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 17, 2026 | Couples Therapy, Emotions, Happiness, Joy, Love, Marriage Counseling, Men, Premarital Counseling, Relationships, Sexuality
The explosive release after the discipline ends. Love is not about losing control. It is about choosing—every single day—to trust instead of grip, to listen instead of lecture, to hold instead of fix. It’s the art of knowing when to stand firm, and when to soften....
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Communication, Couples Therapy, Happiness, Joy, Love, Marriage Counseling, Men, Relationships, Sexuality, Women
Aligning the four pillars to strengthen the foundation of your relationship. Love isn’t something that simply happens to you. It’s something you build—brick by brick, choice by choice, with the kind of intentionality that separates the thriving from the surviving. But...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Love, Sacred, Spirituality
Finding and honoring the aspects of each other’s universe that have deep meaning Let me tell you what kills most long-term relationships. It’s not the affairs, though those are devastating. It’s not the financial disasters, though those will test you. It’s not even...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Joy, Love, Passion, Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality
The first pillar of the Erotic Four — and why nothing else compares. We’ve been lied to. Not subtly, not occasionally — relentlessly and thoroughly lied to about what great sex actually is. The culture has sold us a story that the hottest sex is the newest sex. That...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Communication, Eroticism, Joy, Love, Men, Passion, Sacred, Sexuality, Women
The look that ruins him for anyone else. There’s a moment, just as your lips first brush against him, when everything changes—not because of what you’re doing with your mouth, but because of what you’re doing with your eyes. Most women close theirs or look away when...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 14, 2026 | Communication, Eroticism, Love, Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality, Spirituality
Creating a shift from surviving to thriving, marked as happy, joyous, and free. In 1993, I sat in a quiet room at Santa Clara University, staring at the results of my study on communication apprehension among adult children of alcoholics. The data was clear: people...
