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The Love You’ve Been Too Afraid to Claim (And How to Finally Take It)

by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 28, 2026 | Love, Men, Passion, Sexuality, Women

You know you deserve. You know she wants you. The time is now. You know it’s there—that love. The kind that doesn’t just warm your heart but sets your soul on fire. The kind that doesn’t ask you to shrink, to hide, or to pretend, but instead sees all of you: your...

Why Attraction Sometimes Betrays Us: Why Intelligent, Loving People Repeatedly Choose Relationships That Hurt Them

by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 28, 2026 | Love, Men, Relationships, Women

Understanding why we want what we want — and what it costs us when we don’t examine it. She sat across from me in my office — intelligent, self-aware, professionally accomplished, genuinely kind. She had spent fifteen years dating. She had read the books, done...

Let Him Know You Want Him: The Power of Choosing a Man

by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 27, 2026 | Love, Men, Women

Why making your desire unmistakable can change everything. The Man at the Grill It is a Saturday in late August, and there’s a man at the grill. He didn’t volunteer for the grill so much as drift toward it, the way certain men drift toward any job that gives...

The Traps, Pitfalls, and Downfalls of Modern Intimacy

by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 27, 2026 | Love, Men, Relationships, Women

Why the pursuit of love has never been more sophisticated — or more prone to failure. We have never had more information about relationships. More books, more podcasts, more therapeutic frameworks, more attachment theory explainers, more dating apps algorithmically...

The Well-Loved Man: What Happens When a Man Finally Feels Safe

by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 26, 2026 | Dignity, Men, Relationships, Sexuality

This is what healing looks like when it actually works. Everything written in this book up to this point has been, in one way or another, about the wound. About what was taken and when and how. About the armor that formed around the taking, and the cost of carrying...

Why I Use the Word Worship — And Why It Makes People Nervous

by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 26, 2026 | Dignity, Love, Men, Sacred, Women, Worship

Because some kinds of love are too big for smaller words. The Flinch It happens at dinner parties. It happens at the dentist. It happened once in the checkout line at Costco, which is not where I expected to discuss the theology of desire, but there we were, between...
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RANDI FREDRICKS, PH.D.

Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. has an unusual habit of following interesting questions far beyond the point where most people would have stopped. The result is that she somehow spent her entire career trying to understand men, women, desire, love, and human flourishing. She never intended for it to get this out of hand, but somewhere along the way, things escalated into multiple books, original therapeutic models, published research, hundreds of chapters, and an alarming number of trademark applications. Welcome to the madness, where the sacred and the obscene do the dance of love.

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