by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 25, 2026 | Humor, Joy, Love, Marriage Counseling, Passion, Sacred, Sexuality
A life fully inhabited — Sacred, saucy, and completely without apology. When someone says that are living an erotic life they mean they are living a “balls to the wall” life. The words erotic and eros are deeplply connected. Eros is the spiritual force of...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 17, 2026 | Men, Premarital Counseling, Relationships, Sexuality
It’s all about the explosive release after the discipline ends. Love is not about losing control. It is about choosing—every single day—to trust instead of grip, to listen instead of lecture, to hold instead of fix. It’s the art of knowing when to stand firm,...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Men, Passion, Relationships, Sexuality
What many men feel deeply but rarely say out loud. There is a difference between having sex and making love, and many men feel that difference far more deeply than the world gives them credit for. Modern culture often portrays men as creatures driven primarily by...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Eroticism, Love, Men, Sacred, Sexuality, Women
The look that ruins him for anyone else. There’s a moment, just as your lips first brush against him, when everything changes—not because of what you’re doing with your mouth, but because of what you’re doing with your eyes. Most women close theirs or look away when...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 15, 2026 | Eroticism, Happiness, Men, Passion, Relationships, Sexuality, Women
How to use temperature play to ignite your sex life. There’s a moment, just as the cold of an ice cube presses against his skin, when his entire body tenses—not because it hurts, but because it shocks his system in a way that wakes every nerve ending up at once, that...
by Randi Fredricks, Ph.D. | Mar 14, 2026 | Communication, Eroticism, Love, Relationships, Sacred, Sexuality, Spirituality
Creating a shift from surviving to thriving, marked as happy, joyous, and free. In 1993, I sat in a quiet room at Santa Clara University, staring at the results of my study on communication apprehension among adult children of alcoholics. The data was clear: people...
